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As I was getting out of my car at my apartment complex, a group of men in the apartment complex next to mine were all sitting out on their patio and on the steps leading to the building. They started hollering at me and asking me to come over and hang out with them. I gave them a polite hello and just kept walking to my apartment. This has happened a few times since I moved in a two months ago.
I’m almost worried about coming home every day because I don’t want to have to deal with that. I feel like I should feel guilty that I’m not indulging them even though they are the ones making me feel uncomfortable.
And this got me to thinking…
When I was growing up, I wasn’t very popular with the opposite sex. There were always girls that were much hotter and more beautiful than me. And I’d hear them complaining about how guys were always hitting on them and making them feel uncomfortable. And I hated it because I always thought, You should be happy you’re getting hit on at all. You could be me.
But I was taught to think that way. I was taught that women should feel special, honored, grateful when a guy hits on us. Girls should like that. It was a compliment. Now, there are men that are very sincere when they compliment me and don’t make me feel weird at all. But there are more men that make me feel so uncomfortable. It’s a form of harassment. It’s not a compliment if you’re pushing your feelings onto another person and then getting upset when they’re not returning the feelings.
This mentality needs to change. It is not okay whatsoever. I should not have to be scared to walk from my car to my apartment. I should not have to go out of my way to avoid someone. No matter what the circumstances.
There is a wrong and a right way to compliment someone. I suggest you figure out which is which.